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Monday, January 24, 2011

Our Other Life- For My Children

My son, Brandon, posted pictures tonight of the things he missed about his life in Italy. It made me think...and become a bit nostalgic.So I decided to put into wors some of my special memories for my children. It is something that is hard to explain to those who have never made their home in another land. So instead of trying to explain, it becomes easier to keep it inside. And yet there is a part of each of us that wants to know and be known by others. When you make the decision to allow God to lead you, it doesn't just mean being away from family and friends, or struggling with a new language, or even trying to figure out what the good "involved" parents do after a school performance. Do you show up with flowers? Do you bring the teacher flowers? People around me understood what we left behind, and understood the pain that we struggled with when we both lost a parent while living in a far away land.They understood 11 years was a long time to be away. What few understood was that it did not stay a foreign land. It became our home. What few understood is the pain that came with leaving that "foreign" land, that has become your home. That eleven years is a lifetime to your children.That there are things about my life in Italy and Greece that I loved more than in America. I miss the evening walks strolling the streets of Florence. I miss trips to the train station for the International Herald and a burger from Italy & Italy. I miss the mornings when my children were all in school and Terry and I would spend the morning at the large bookstore on Via Nazionale. Then look through the racks at Coin for a new linen blazer for Jon or red felt hats with shiny red ribbons for the girls. We'd stop by the newsstand and pick up packs of "figurini" for Brandon. I miss the summer evenings sitting out under the grape arbor in Renata and Lorenzos garden, with chickens and cats at our feet, eating for hours..and talking and blowing the horns whenever Fiorentina scored (there was a little tv set up to follow the game of course!) I miss preparing for Carnevale, sewing the costumes, and spending hours in the square at Scandicci while the children and their friends threw streamers of curly paper at one another- followed by a trip to Mario's bar for Torta della Nonna. I miss the waxing and buffing of my marble floors, and the clean smell. I miss sitting out on our terrace on Via Cecioni and watching the rollerskating and soccer games, and my children yelling down from our sixth floor apartment to their friends at neighboring terraces. Then there were the daily walks into San Donato in Poggio for a paper and fresh fruit. Not to mention my butcher who would pick fresh rosemary to roll up in the arrosto and our own drunken priest who weaved down the main street in the evenings. Oh, the bouquets of wild flowers we would pick on those walks into town...not to mention the Speedy Pizzas we consumed:) Or the trips on Thursday mornings to the market in Tavernelle Val di Pesa. We always had roast chicken and potatoes bought from the vendor. I loved the last minute phone calls from former students who would be at the train station with their new spouses- wanting to share their memories with them.The many late night runs to Piazzale Michelangelo for gelati. Sunday Agape's where Mario would roll out the plastic cloths over the boards in order to feed everyone at church...not wanting to forget the 2 ft. by 6 ft kitchen gallery where the huge meal was prepared. The early years when I understood so little of the sermons, no nursery, and a husband who was everywhere BUT sitting in the pew beside me:) Memories of Greece are sweet, but  overshadowed by the deep concern I had for my children who were not with me. I remember watching the Towers come down, and wondering where my son was. I had just left him at a new school in a new state, an ocean away. I knew he was scared and alone, and for the first time I wasn't there. But, oh, the beauty of walking the streets of Mykonos at night, or riding the cable cars up the side of Santorini. I miss the powerful worship services in Athens, with Dino singing LOUDLY, ",,,if I should die upon a foreign field some day...". I miss the excitement in Jordan's eyes when he was picked up from his little Greek school. There were many wonderful hours sitting out by the pool sharing life with young people (two of which became my son-in-laws). So many wonderful blessings. So much I miss. Life has been wonderful and full of blessings. I am grateful beyond measure for each place God has taken me. Each town has been a gift. But just for tonight, I will be indulgent and say, I would like to go back in time, when all my sweet children were safe under my roof, and yell "Si Mangia...come to the table". And we would head out to the table in the courtyard, where Vivaldi was playing from the upstairs window of the villa. I would yell to Jon to get more Spumante from the cantina, and to Chelsea to grab one of the baskets of fruit. I would tell Katie that Miranda had left a bowl of pasta "bianco" for her by the back of the stove, and remind Brandon to share the pizzete. I would call Jordan and Christian from the basketball court and announce the Dad was ready to thank God for our meal. "Grazie Dio per questa cibo...".

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Jordan's 13th Birthday






On Saturday we celebrated a special birthday with a house full of boys from church and our homeschool group. It had to be the easiest party I ever hosted. They were a nice group of boys who enjoyed playing Kinect, table tennis, football, and hanging out in the cabin. I went with an Alabama theme and tried my hand at cake decorating. I sure missed Chelsea being here with her wonderful cakes. Katie was here with her amazing skills, but I'm afraid she had her hands full with a one month old in her arms:) We shared pizza together, visited with a few of the parents, and then spent the remainder of the evening with our older children and grandchildren. I had made Maria a new apron and she baked us a cake in her new EasyBake oven. Julia clomped around in her Pinkalicious heels with matching cupcake purse. Charlotte spent the night and went to church with us the next morning. Grandchildren are so much fun--and their parents are pretty great, too:)

Christmas 2010

Following the wedding we returned home to Wetumpka. My sweet in-laws came home with us because Earl was speaking at our congregation the following day. He has not slowed down one bit! Every morning he was out at 6:30AM to walk his daily miles. I enjoyed the time with Lora baking in the kitchen and visiting with family (Chelsea, Justin and Brandon and Kristin came and spent a few days with us. On Wednesday Karen, Dan and Caleb arrived from Houston, TX. We shared many wonderful meals, singing, and even tuba playing:) On Christmas Eve, Jon and Kristin joined us having just flown in from their honeymoon. I'm sure Kristin will have such warm memories of her first Edwards Christmas (the tuba playing, going to bed alone while Jon plays Santa building a table tennis table for his little brothers, etc.:). Christmas morning, after waking to a white Alabama Christmas, we headed to Birmingham to share a meal with the grandchildren and their parents. One of my favorite memories was of Terry sitting by the window, playing the guitar while the snow gently fell outside. Little Maria pulled up a little chair and they sang together about " a little girl named Maria and her Grandpa watching the snow fall..." Terry was always very creative with his lyrics! We headed home that evening to spend a bit more time with Terry's sister before she had to head back to Texas.

Celebration of a Grandson-to-be

On December 30, a beautiful little boy was born. Unbeknownst to him, he had chosen his new Mama and Daddy's 5th anniversary to make his arrival. They had waited a long time for him to make his appearance. They have two little ones waiting in heaven, and they really long for a baby to call their own. I have not shared his birth because we have been waiting for his birthmother to make a very difficult decision. It is asking a lot for a mature Christian from a loving home to make a decision that will cause them much pain, but will give an amazing life to a little child. It is even harder to ask this of a woman who has known many struggles. But today she gave her child the gift of a good life. Lord willing, in less than two weeks I will get to be there when this little boy is placed in the arms of his parents for the first time. They will be such amazing parents, because they are grateful. They appreciate life, and what a gift it is.

The Wedding Day



December 18 was a wonderful day for our family. God blessed me with a new daughter, Kristin Nicole. Yes, she shares the same name as my other daughter-in-law, but she is unique and special in her own right. Jon was always a man who marched to his own drum. I was afraid several times over the years that he would never find the woman who could not just "allow" for his uniqueness, but that would love and cherish them. And then he found her. She is beautiful, sweet, kind, intelligent- and, best of all, she loves him. Truly loves him. We could not be any happier. I am so grateful that they both allowed God to determine their steps. His ways are not our ways, but they are always perfect. Thus, why my blogging took a break. It was simply contentment. Contentment with the wonderful children God has blessed Terry and I with, and their dear spouses, Tim, Justin, Kristin and Kristin.Thank you, God.